A complete file about benefits of marriage

[ltr]Marriage is a great blessing from Allah Almighty and it has many benefits according to many recent studies .let us read…….[/ltr]

[ltr]Marriage is an affection and mercy[/ltr]
[ltr]According to a major international study held by University of Otago across 15 countries and 34,493 people, researchers found that getting married is positive for the mental health of both men and women, resulting in reduced risks of the likelihood of most mental disorders such as depression, anxiety and substance abuse.[/ltr]
[ltr]The study led by clinical psychologist Dr Kate Scott from the University of Otago Wellington is based on the WHO World Mental Health (WMH) surveys across developing and developed countries in the past decade. This world first study has been recently published in the UK journal Psychological Medicine.[/ltr]
[ltr]“We found that compared to never getting married, getting married is good for both men and women in terms of most mental health disorders.” Kate said.[/ltr]
 
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[ltr]Dr Kate Scott says about the study” One of the more important findings is that in recent years it has been asserted that marriage is better for men than for women in terms of mental health. This study does not agree with that position.”
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[ltr]Also she added : “But what makes this investigation unique and more robust is the sample is so large and across so many countries and the fact that we have data not only on depression, which has been much studied in the past, but also on anxiety and substance use disorders. In addition we were able to look at what happens to mental health in marriage, both in comparison with never getting married, and with ending marriage.”
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[ltr]However the study did find that men are less likely to become depressed in their first marriage than women. The study comments that this may be linked to traditional gender roles in the home. Dr Scott says significant gender role differences in the home can have an effect on mental health problems for married women.[/ltr]
[ltr]On the downside, the University of Otago, Wellington’s new study shows that ending marriage can increase the risk of mental health problems. Being previously married (i.e. being separated, divorced, and widowed) is associated with increased risk of all mental health disorders in both men and women; particularly with depression in men and substance abuse (drugs and alcohol) in women.[/ltr]
[ltr]“What our study points to is that the marital relationship offers a lot of mental health benefits for both men and women, and that the distress and disruption associated with ending marriage can make people vulnerable to developing mental disorders”. Said Kate[/ltr]
[ltr]Glory to Allah who told us 1400 years ago about the many benefits of marriage as He Almighty says: (And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.){ Sûrat Ar-Rûm - The Romans -verse21}.
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[ltr]Here we have to draw your attention to an important point  that all rules of Islam are applicable for all people so that prophet Mohamed  peace be upon him  make it very clear as he says to Osman ibn Afan(one of the companions) about importance of marriage “O’ Osman I didn’t get an order to  monasticism ” [Right series]. [/ltr]
[ltr]But Islam allowed spouses to divorce if the life between both of them became impossible but He Almighty ordered Muslims to resort to divorce in the last phase after many tries between both sides to keep marriage as He Almighty says: (If you fear a breach between them twain (the man and his wife), appoint (two) arbitrators, one from his family and the other from her's; if they both wish for peace, Allah will cause their reconciliation. Indeed Allah is Ever All-Knower, Well-Acquainted with all things.){Sûrat An-Nisâ’- The Women –verse 35} and that because marriage is the original situation but divorce is the exception and that indeed because the many problems resulted from divorce as all recent scientists and researchers say. 
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[ltr]Scientists say that marriage is the perfect system[/ltr]
[ltr]According to recent researches and studies, Psychologists and scientists confirm that marriage is the normal human behavior and any other behavior such as homosexuality, refusal of marriage, adultery, and illegal relations are abnormal behaviors.[/ltr]
[ltr]Mark Phippen, head of the Cambridge University Counseling Service, says “parental separation is one of the most common triggers for support requests among students.”    [/ltr]
[ltr]Mark Phippen, head of the Cambridge University Counseling Service[/ltr]
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[ltr]'Regardless of whether it's a complete shock or they've seen it coming, the majority is deeply affected. It's something that's quite likely to be carried into the students' current or future relationships. ‘He added about students who are affected by parents’ divorce.[/ltr]
 
 
 
[ltr]Psychologists say that divorce is a messy business for everyone concerned and there is no best age to announce to your kids that Mum and Dad are splitting up. But those who think that late teenagers are somehow less immune to the emotional impact of divorce than young children are very much mistaken.[/ltr]
 
[ltr]Researchers say that in just six years, between 2002 and 2008, the number of divorced women over the age of 45 jumped by a third[/ltr]
[ltr]Impacts of divorce[/ltr]
[ltr]Divorce or the death of a spouse severely damages a man or woman's long-term health even if they remarry, researchers say.[/ltr]
[ltr]Also they confirm that the impact of these life-changing events continues to have a detrimental impact on physical well-being years later.[/ltr]
[ltr]According to a recent study researchers show that the divorced or widowed have 20 per cent more chronic health conditions such as heart disease, diabetes or cancer than married people. They also have 23 per cent more mobility problems including trouble climbing stairs or walking short distances.[/ltr]
[ltr]But the study reveals that finding another partner does not nurse them back to health.[/ltr]
[ltr]The study illustrate that those who have remarried still have 12 per cent more chronic conditions and 19 per cent more mobility problems than those who have been continuously married.[/ltr]
[ltr]It is believed that the health of the divorced or widowed suffers because incomes drop and intense stress and unhappiness develops over issues such as childcare and finances.[/ltr]
[ltr]Scientists believe that damage caused from this extreme stress to the cardiovascular or immune system, for example, remains even years later when the person is happy again. [/ltr]
[ltr]Researchers at the University of Chicago and Johns Hopkins University, Baltimore, studied 8,652 people aged 51 to 61. Three-quarters were currently married with 55 per cent continuously married and 20 per cent remarried.[/ltr]
[ltr]Another 22 per cent had been previously married and of these, 69 per cent had separated or divorced and 31 per cent widowed. Less than 4 per cent of all those studied had never been married.[/ltr]
[ltr]The average age at marriage among those who had divorced or been widowed was 21. They had spent on average 25 years married and 9.5 years in a divorced, separated or widowed state.[/ltr]
[ltr]Researchers examined people's health in terms of the number of chronic conditions they suffered such as diabetes, heart disease, lung disease, cancer or a stroke and their levels of mobility.[/ltr]
[ltr]They had been assessed for depressive symptoms and were asked to rate their own health as excellent, very good, good, fair or poor.[/ltr]
[ltr]The study found that remarried and previously married people both showed 'significantly worse' health than the continuously married in all aspects studied. People who never married had 12 per cent more mobility problems and 13 per cent more depressive symptoms than those with a spouse.[/ltr]
[ltr]Professor Linda Waite, a sociologist at the University of Chicago who co-authored the study, said the loss of a spouse or going through divorce can cause enormous stress for months or years which damage the circulatory system.[/ltr]


[ltr]Professor Linda Waite also said: 'Stress affects your immune system and leads to increased inflammation. We're now thinking that inflammation is at the route of cardiovascular disease and certain kinds of cancer.[/ltr]
[ltr]Dr waite draw attention of people to the importance of marriage by saying “What I argue, and in my view, the research evidence supports, is that marriage itself changes people's choices and when their choices change, their behavior changes, which results in greater health.”.[/ltr]
[ltr]Here we have to mention that statistics triggers a warning as it illustrate that more than 42 per cent of British marriages end in divorce.[/ltr]
[ltr]Hence we have to understand why marriage is the original situation but divorce is the exception.[/ltr]
[ltr]Marriage yield healthy people[/ltr]
[ltr]Married people are healthier than other adults, though husbands have a tendency to pack on some extra pounds, says the American National Center for Health Statistics according to a survey of more than 125,000 people.[/ltr]
[ltr]Health statistician Charlotte Schoenborn said that there are two major theories:[/ltr]
[ltr]One is that marriage may be protective of health. For example married couples may have advantages in terms of economic resources, social and psychological support and encouragement of healthful lifestyles.[/ltr]
[ltr]A second possibility is marital selection, "the theory that healthy people get married and stay married, whereas less healthy people either do not marry or are more likely to become separated, divorced or widowed."[/ltr]
[ltr]The center reported that among adults 18 and over, 11.9 percent said they were in only fair or poor health.[/ltr]
[ltr]Some 10.5 percent of married people reported being in poor or fair health, while all other groups were higher. At 19.6 percent, the widowed were the most likely to be in these categories.[/ltr]
[ltr]"In general, married adults were the least likely to experience health problems and the least likely to engage in risky health behaviors, with the notable exception of being overweight," Schoenborn wrote.[/ltr]
[ltr]The report was based on a survey of 127,545 people in 1999-2002 conducted by the center, a part of the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.[/ltr]
 
[ltr]In addition to reporting better health overall, the study found that married people said they had less low back pain, fewer headaches and less psychological stress. They also were less likely to drink and smoke and were more physically active than people in general.[/ltr]
[ltr]However, they're not immune to weight problems. Currently more than half of all adults are overweight or obese — 56.7 percent — the center said.[/ltr]
[ltr]“People are waiting longer to marry now, and living with a domestic partner outside of marriage has become more common” Schoenborn noted.[/ltr]
[ltr]"For most negative health indicators, adults living with a partner had higher rates than married adults: they were more likely to be in fair or poor health, to have some type of limitation of activity for health reasons and to have experienced low back pain and headaches ... and serious psychological distress," Schoenborn reported.[/ltr]
[ltr]The report found that married people were least likely to light up a smoke, at 18.8 percent, compared with 22.9 percent for all adults. The most likely to smoke were those living with an unmarried partner, 38.4 percent, and divorced and separated people, 34.7 percent.[/ltr]
[ltr]Some 4.7 percent of adults reported they had become heavier drinkers than previously, with the lowest rate among marrieds at 3.7 percent. Again, those living with an unmarried partner had the largest share reporting more drinking, 8.2 percent, followed by the divorced and separated, 6.4 percent.[/ltr]
[ltr]Also a recent study was held by Professor Dario Maestripieri in Comparative Human Development at the University of Chicago confirm that marriage is good of the health of people.[/ltr]
[ltr]"These results suggest that single and unpaired individuals are more responsive to psychological stress than married individuals, a finding consistent with a growing body of evidence showing that marriage and social support can buffer against stress," said Maestripieri[/ltr]
 
 
[ltr]Dario Maestripieri has a Ph.D. in Psychobiology from the University of Rome (1992) and is currently a Professor of Comparative Human Development, Evolutionary Biology, and Neurobiology at the University of Chicago.[/ltr]
[ltr]The team of researchers from the University of Chicago and Northwestern University studied 500 masters' degree students at the University Of Chicago Booth School Of Business. About 40 percent of the men and 53 percent of the women were married or in relationships. The group included 348 men with a mean age of 29 and 153 women with a mean age of 27.[/ltr]
[ltr]The students were asked to play a series of computer games that tested economic behaviors, and saliva samples were taken before and after to measure hormone levels and changes.[/ltr]
[ltr]Each student was told that the test was a course requirement, and it would impact their future career placement. That made the test a potentially stressful experience that could affect levels of cortisol, known as the stress hormone.[/ltr]
[ltr]The researchers found cortisol concentrations increased in all participants, but that females experienced a higher average increase than males. The exercise also decreased testosterone in male subjects, but not in females, a stress effect previously observed in humans and animals.[/ltr]
[ltr]But a piece of personal information collected before the test provided another interesting difference within the subjects. "We found that unpaired individuals of both sexes had higher cortisol levels than married individuals," Maestripieri said.[/ltr]
[ltr]"Although marriage can be pretty stressful, it should make it easier for people to handle other stressors in their lives," Maestripieri said. "What we found is that marriage has a dampening effect on cortisol responses to psychological stress, and that is very new." Added Maestripieri.[/ltr]
 
[ltr]What should we understand from this study?   [/ltr]
[ltr]Allah Almighty tells us to that we have to reflect by saying: (Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.){ Sûrat Ar-Rûm - The Romans -verse21}.[/ltr]
[ltr]Hence, from previous study we should believe that marriage is a human nature and any other kind of relations despite marriage is totally wrong and not fruitful.   [/ltr]
[ltr]Marriage was created since the first day of creation as Allah Almighty says: (And We said: "O Adam! Dwell you and your wife in the Paradise and eat both of you freely with pleasure and delight){Sûrat Al-Baqarah- The Cow –verse35}, here we find that Allah Almighty told Adam to dwell in paradise not with his girlfriend or with his boyfriend or even alone but He Almighty told him to be with his wife.[/ltr]
[ltr] Glory to Allah!!!!!!!       [/ltr]
[ltr]Mechanism of Pleasure and delight between wife and husband [/ltr]
[ltr]Sociologists and scientists confirm that existence of a wife with a husband is considered to be a dampening factor to reduce frustration and stress around husband and also they confirm that married man is more creative than unmarried.[/ltr]
[ltr]As two University of Kansas researchers are studying why women who choose careers in science, technology, engineering and mathematics advance as young professors, scientists or educators but then disappear from the profession.[/ltr]
[ltr]Karen Multon, professor and chair of the Department of Psychology and Research in Education in KU's School of Education, and Barbara Kerr, Distinguished Professor of Counseling Psychology, are researching how a woman's relationship with a significant other may impact her career choices[/ltr]
 
           
[ltr]"It's not just your boyfriend or husband, it's also family concerns and how you're going to handle all of that at once, in a field that is so demanding," said Multon.[/ltr]
[ltr]Kerr points out that married male scientists are found to be the most productive scientists, followed by single male scientists. Single women come in at third-most productive, followed by married female scientists.[/ltr]
[ltr]"So marriage is a benefit to male scientists but not to female scientists," Kerr said.[/ltr]
 
[ltr]Consequences of violating Allah’s nature[/ltr]
[ltr]Scientists, community leaders, and policymakers across the world are admitting that strong marriages are the key to improving social and personal well-being. Increasingly, research is showing that children in married families are healthier, perform better in school, live in poverty less frequently, and are involved in crime or other destructive behaviors less often. But as marriages fail, social problems and social spending to deal with those problems increase.[/ltr]
[ltr]Let us make a tour to find out what is happening as a consequence of being away from marriage and the consequence of the broken relation between spouses:[/ltr]
[ltr]1.         European figures[/ltr]
[ltr]According to the council of Europe website the latest  figures for prevalence of violence against women suggests that one-fifth to one-quarter of all women have experienced physical violence at least once during their adult lives, and more than one-tenth have suffered sexual violence involving the use of force. Secondary data analysis supports an estimate that about 12% to 15% of all women have been in a relationship of domestic abuse after the age of 16.[/ltr]
[ltr]Many more continue to suffer physical and sexual violence from former partners even after the break-up.[/ltr]
[ltr]2.         American figures[/ltr]
[ltr]The American figures about violence Against Women are terrifying as the following:[/ltr]
[ltr]         In 2005, of all the women murdered in the U.S., about one-third were killed by an intimate partner.[/ltr]
[ltr]         According to the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, women experience about 4.8 million intimate partner-related physical assaults and rapes every year. Less than 20 percent of battered women sought medical treatment following an injury.[/ltr]
[ltr]         According to the National Crime Victimization Survey, which includes crimes that were not reported to the police, 232,960 women in the U.S. were raped or sexually assaulted in 2006. That's more than 600 women every day. A significant number of crimes are never even reported for reasons that include the victim's feeling that nothing can or will be done and the personal nature of the incident.[/ltr]
[ltr]         Young women, low-income women and some minorities are disproportionately victims of domestic violence and rape. Women ages 20-24 are at greatest risk of nonfatal domestic violence, and women age 24 and under suffer from the highest rates of rape. The Justice Department estimates that one in five women will experience rape or attempted rape during their college years, and that less than five percent of these rapes will be reported.[/ltr]
[ltr]         According to the Family Violence Prevention Fund, "growing up in a violent home may be a terrifying and traumatic experience that can affect every aspect of a child's life, growth and development. . . . Children who have been exposed to family violence suffer symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder, such as bed-wetting or nightmares, and were at greater risk than their peers of having allergies, asthma, gastrointestinal problems, headaches and flu." In addition, women who experience physical abuse as children are at a greater risk of victimization as adults, and men have a far greater (more than double) likelihood of perpetrating abuse.[/ltr]
[ltr]         The Centers for Disease Control estimates that the cost of domestic violence in 2003 was more than $8.3 billion. This cost includes medical care, mental health services, and lost productivity.[/ltr]
[ltr]         Every 9 seconds a woman is physically abused by her husband.[/ltr]
[ltr]         95% of assaults on spouses or ex-spouses are committed by men against women.[/ltr]
[ltr]         30% of women presenting with injuries to the emergency department had injuries caused by battering.[/ltr]
[ltr]         From 7% to 26% of pregnant women are abused.[/ltr]
[ltr]         Pregnancy is a risk factor. Several studies indicate a range of incidence from 17% to 26% of pregnant women[/ltr]
[ltr]But we have to take into consideration that all of these figures are in only one country and the numbers around the world would be terrifying.[/ltr]
[ltr]3.         World figures[/ltr]
[ltr]Around the world there is a high prevalence rate of homosexual men and women as the following:[/ltr]
[ltr]         Number of homosexuals in Australia is 1.2% of adults identify as homosexual or lesbian.[/ltr]
[ltr]         In Canada .3% of men and 0.7% of women considered themselves homosexual.[/ltr]
[ltr]         In United Kingdom one adult in 100 is a homosexual, according to new figures.[/ltr]
[ltr]         Statistics for Sweden show 0.55% of couples are same-sex and in Norway 0.68%.[/ltr]
[ltr]Scientists and physicians confirm that this kind of relations is not fruitful and lasts only for no more than 3 years.[/ltr]
[ltr]Also the problem is not limited only for numbers of homosexual but extends to its consequences as AIDS is a main cause by this forbidden kind of relationship.[/ltr]
[ltr]4.         Adultery and AIDS [/ltr]
[ltr]In a report published by CNN, researchers announced that AIDS rate of incidence is increasing day after day. Despite the billions being paid, they failed to find an effective treatment for this disease until now. The Center for Disease Control and prevention CDC said that there are more infections of Human Immunodeficiency Viruses (HIV) between Americans with rates higher than what used to be thought.  Keeve Vinton, Manger of AIDS Dept. at the center, had pointed out that about 56 thousand new cases were recorded last year, which means 40% increase over previous estimations.[/ltr]
[ltr]The center stated that there is likely a possibility of recording 40 thousand new cases annually; however, estimates depended on limited data and less precise means.[/ltr]
[ltr]In Africa there are 25 million person infected by AIDS from total of 40 million in the entire world. Infection spreads in Africa through sexual relations between man and woman.[/ltr]
[ltr]When we read these figures we should remember the holy verse as Allah Almighty order believers to be away from unlawful relations by saying: (Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do.)[Sûrat An-Nûr- The Light-verse30].[/ltr]
 
 
[ltr]5.         Raping and marriage[/ltr]
[ltr]Non-marriage is considered to be the main reason behind the phenomenon of Raping as the most recent figures about raping in one country are as following: [/ltr]
[ltr]•           1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime (14.8% completed rape; 2.8% attempted rape).[/ltr]
[ltr]•           17.7 million American women have been victims of attempted or completed rape.[/ltr]
[ltr]•           9 of every 10 rape victims were female in 2003.[/ltr]
[ltr]•           While about 80% of all victims are white, minorities are somewhat more likely to be attacked.[/ltr]
[ltr]Also in many western counties there a special phone line to enable raped women and girls to declare about a rape accident as there are many people who don’t inform the official authorities about what happen to them. There are many clinics to treat the psychological effects of rape and there are many curriculums in universities explaining ways of treating the dangerous psychological effects of rape.[/ltr]
[ltr]A study in 2005 had confirmed that most of rape accidents are caused by relatives and friends of the raped woman (National Crime Victimization Survey, 2005) and most of these accidents happen in the house of a friend or relative. [/ltr]
[ltr]So that people who are away from their God and His acts are living in hardship in the world and in hereafter they will face a harmful torture because of adultery and being away from beliefs and instructions of Allah Almighty. So that in hereafter guilty men and women will lose their sight and they will be blind, Allah says  But whosoever turns away from My Reminder (i.e. neither believes in this Qur'an nor acts on its teachings.) verily, for him is a life of hardship, and we shall raise him up blind on the Day of Resurrection* He will say: "O my Lord! Why have you raised me up blind, while I had sight (before)* (Allah) will say: "Like this: Our signs came unto you, but you disregarded them (i.e. you left them, did not think deeply in them, and you turned away from them), and so this Day, you will be neglected (in the Hell-fire, away from Allah’s Mercy)* And thus do We requite him who transgresses beyond bounds [i.e. commits the great sins and disobeys his Lord (Allah) and believes not in His Messengers, and His revealed Books, like this Qur’an], and believes not in the proofs of his Lord; and the torment of the Hereafter is far more severe and more lasting) (Sûrat Taha - verse 124-127).[/ltr]
[ltr]It is worth mentioning that consequences of raping are destructive not only on who has been raped but on the entire community.[/ltr]
[ltr]6.         Children and sexual assault[/ltr]
[ltr]Recent figures about practicing sexual activities against children state that 15% of sexual assault and rape victims are under age 12 and 29% are between age 12-17 where44% are under age 18.Also figures states that 80% are under age 30.Also researchers say that girls ages 16-19 are 4 times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault and 7% of girls in grades 5-8 and 12% of girls in grades 9-12 said they had been sexually abused.  Statistics illustrate that nearly 30% of child victims were between the age of 4 and 7.[/ltr]
[ltr]-7   Illegitimate children[/ltr]
[ltr]In United States, number of births which are resulted from illegitimate marriage had increased to be 37 %( statistics in 2004).we have to mention that phenomenon of illegitimate children in western countries is accepted from both men and women.[/ltr]
[ltr]A published study on the website of the BBC stated that number of illegitimate children in Britain is 12% in 1998 and it increased to be 42% in 2004 (Office for National Statistics) . In western European countries ratio of illegitimate children (sons of adultery) is 33% (the annual ONS' Social Trends report).[/ltr]
[ltr]Statistics say that ratio of men who lives with illegitimate wives is 24% and ratio of women who lives with illegitimate husbands is 25% (ONS, 2004).[/ltr]
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[ltr]The above graph is to represent ratio of illegitimate children in some European countries, in Sweden it is 55% in 2004 and in Spain it is 22% in 2003. Therefore, from every 100 newborn babies there are from 22 to 55 illegitimate babies, don’t you see that it is an indication for the imminent collapsing of the western civilization (BBC).[/ltr]
[ltr]Supplication to facilitate marriage  [/ltr]
[ltr]Dear my sisters and brothers, all of us ask God to grant him or her good wife and a good husband, but we have to admit that all countries are facing problem of marriage delay.[/ltr]
[ltr]After many years of researches I found that dependence on God is the shortest way to facilitate marriage as we have to be satisfied with our destiny and to know that God is the one who knows the best for us and we don’t know the best for ourselves. And we have to make things easier for ourselves so that God will facilitate everything for us.[/ltr]
[ltr]One of the most effective methods to facilitate marriage is to ask Allah seven times with the supplication of prophet Zakaria, God says in Qur’an  "O My Lord Leave me not single (childless), though you are the Best of the inheritors.) (Sûrat Al-Anbiyâ’ - verse 89) and to read (Sûrat Al-Ikhlâs) many times also to read And among His Signs is that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect) (Sûrat Al Rum - verse 21).   Also read the first verse in Quran (Sûrat Al-Fâtihah) seven times.[/ltr]
[ltr]My brothers in God[/ltr]
[ltr]These information and statistics are not just for reading but to look attentively at a sign of God which is marriage. Allah puts repose and mercy between couples. When we read the results of the new researches about the physiological stability of married people, therefore we have to realize the meaning behind the following verse  that you may find repose in them) and to supplicate by the supplication of believers which is (And those who say: "Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders of the God-fearing people) (Sûrat Al Forkan - verse 74).  [/ltr]
[ltr]A scientific study: Enhancing income by marriage[/ltr]
[ltr]Researchers say that marriage increase income and that is against the wrong thoughts of people who believe that marriage and children leads to losing money and poverty. Also, those researchers believe that marriage offers important social and economic benefits. Children who grow up with married parents generally enjoy a higher standard of living than those living in single-parent households. Two parents are usually better than one not only because they can bring home two paychecks, but also because they can share responsibilities for child care. Marriage often leads to higher levels of paternal involvement than divorce, non-marriage, or cohabitation.[/ltr]
[ltr]Researchers say that Marriage Boosts Income so they advise people to marry and get children to live a happy life
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[ltr]Daniel Lichter  of Ohio State University puts it this way: "Marriage can be a pathway from poverty, but only if women are 'marriageable,' stay married, and marry well."[/ltr]
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[ltr]Dr. Daniel T. Lichter is the Ferris family professor in the Department of Policy Analysis and Management, and Professor of Sociology.[/ltr]
 
[ltr]A study published in the Journal of Sociology and conducted by Ohio State University researcher Jay Zagorsky found that “married individuals have almost double the net worth of those that are divorced [or] single” with wealth being defined “by such factors as home value, stocks, cash, and savings vehicles.” [/ltr]
[ltr]Jay Zagorsky, a research scientist at Ohio State University’s Center for Human Resource Research.[/ltr]
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[ltr]”Children living with single mothers are five times more likely to be poor than children in two-parent households. Children in single-parent homes are also more likely to drop out of school and become teen parents, even when income is factored out. And the evidence suggests that on average, children who live with their biological mother and father do better than those who live in stepfamilies or with cohabiting partners.... In light of these facts, policies that strengthen marriage for those who choose it and that discourage unintended births outside of marriage are sensible goals to pursue.” Said Barack Obama, president of the united states of American in his book” The Audacity of Hope “ which was published In February 2006.  [/ltr]
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[ltr]The Audacity of Hope: Thoughts on Reclaiming the American Dream is the second book written by Barack Obama .In the fall of 2006 it became number one on both the New York Times and Amazon.com bestsellers lists.
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[ltr]Jennifer A. Marshall the director of the DeVos Center for Religion and Civil Society at The Heritage Foundation reported that about two-thirds of poor children live in single-parent homes. Government spends $300 billion annually to assist low-income single parents.[/ltr]
[ltr]But if poor single mothers married the fathers of their children, nearly two-thirds could escape poverty immediately. 
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[ltr]Another study by Maria Cancian at university of Wisconsin and Debbie Reed[/ltr]
[ltr]Public Policy Institute of California examined the importance of changes over the last several decades in family structure and the relationships among family structure, childbearing, employment and poverty. They stated in the study that Child Poverty has grown Since the 1960s and that increase is due to changes in family structure that push poverty higher due to decline in marriage, growth in non-marital births then children are more likely to be raised in single-parent families as in the graphs below:[/ltr]
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[ltr]An obvious increase in poverty rate from 1969 to 2006 [/ltr]
[ltr]Decline in Marriage rate from 1970 till 2006 
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[ltr]Analyzing this fact leads us to believe that marriage is the only way to build a robust community. According to the principles of Islam, marriage should be as soon as possible when all needed facilities are ready for both man and woman.[/ltr]
[ltr]Allah Almighty Who created us and knows the better for us says: (And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect){Sûrat Ar-Rûm -The Romans –verse21}.[/ltr]
[ltr]Marriage helps in survival from cancer[/ltr]
[ltr]US researchers from Indiana University analyzed data on 3.8m people diagnosed with cancer between 1973 and 2004.They found people who were married had a 63% chance of surviving five years, compared to 45% of people who were separated, the journal Cancer reported.[/ltr]
[ltr]The team said the stress of break-up probably affected survival rates and[/ltr]
[ltr]Previous studies have looked at the impact of marriage on health outcomes.[/ltr]
[ltr]Many have found a beneficial effect with experts suggesting the love and support of a partner is essential in battling against illness.[/ltr]
[ltr]This theory is supported by the findings of the latest study. researchers looked at five and 10-year survival rates for married, widowed, divorced and never-married patients as well as those going through a separation at the time of diagnosis.[/ltr]
[ltr]After marriage, never-married patients had the best outcomes, followed by those who had been divorced and then widowers.[/ltr]
[ltr]Lead researcher Dr Gwen Sprehn said: "Patients who are going through separation at the time of diagnosis may be a particularly vulnerable population for whom intervention could be prioritized.[/ltr]
[ltr]"Identification of relationship-related stress at time of diagnosis could lead to early interventions which might favorably impact survival." Added Sprehn.[/ltr]
 
[ltr]New discovered benefits for early marriage[/ltr]
[ltr]A new research shows that children born to older fathers tend to have lower intelligence.[/ltr]
[ltr]Professor John McGrath from the Queensland Brain Institute at the University of Queensland, says the study found children at the ages of four and seven, with older dads, performed a little worse on cognitive tests.[/ltr]
[ltr]"The offspring of dads who are about aged 50 are scoring about two IQ points less than offspring of fathers who are about 20," he said
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[ltr]Professor McGrath says it makes sense that children of more educated and stable women do better, but it is not clear why that does not apply to the kids of older fathers.[/ltr]
[ltr]"It's a very small effect but when we control for things like the mother and father's education, and the mother and father's socio-economic status, this link between paternal age and how the children are going is still there," he said.[/ltr]
 
[ltr]Professor John McGrath from the Queensland Brain Institute at the University of Queensland[/ltr]
[ltr]"We have data on the children when they were eight months old, four years old and seven years old, and the offspring of older dads do a little bit worse, fairly consistently." Said john.[/ltr]
[ltr]Previous research by Professor McGrath's team has shown an increased risk of schizophrenia among children born to older fathers.[/ltr]
[ltr]We have to remember the prophetic advice as prophet Mohamed tells us from 1400 years the following advice “whoever is able to marry , he or she must do”[narrated by Al-Bukhari]”.[/ltr]
[ltr]Another study held by the Danish University of Aarhus concluded the same result.[/ltr]
[ltr]The Danish study, one of the largest of its kind, adds to the evidence that biological clocks can be a crucial factor for both men and women when it comes to having children.[/ltr]
[ltr]The researchers warned: 'The risks of older fatherhood can be very profound and it is not something that people are always aware of.'[/ltr]
[ltr]The University of Aarhus study tracked the health of more than 100,000 first-borns for up to the first 18 years of their lives.[/ltr]
[ltr]During that time 831 died, with the majority of deaths in the first year after birth.[/ltr]
[ltr]Analysis found a clear link between cause of death and the father's age, with children of teenage fathers and of over-45s up to 88 per cent more likely to die than those born to men aged between 25 and 29.[/ltr]
 
[ltr]What should we learn from all of these studies?[/ltr]
[ltr]There are many lessons that we should learn from these studies as following:[/ltr]
[ltr]1.         People should believe that marriage has many benefits and it is not just a way to empty human’s libido.[/ltr]
[ltr]2.         Keeping away from marriage is against human nature because Allah Almighty the creator of all creatures and His prophet orders us to marry because of the many benefits of marriage. [/ltr]
[ltr]3.         Atheists and disbelievers were totally wrong when they assumed that marriage is a personal choice and people may choose another kind of relations instead of marriage such as homosexuality. [/ltr]
[ltr]4.         Allah Almighty wanted us to reach all recent scientific conclusions about the importance of marriage without going through all of these kinds of bad experiences such as homosexuality, adultery, Aids, violence, etc………….[/ltr]
[ltr]5.         Also prophet Mohamed peace be upon him advise us to marry to be a good follower for him be saying: “I am the most one who know Allah and I am the most one who is afraid from Allah but I fast and eat, sleep and pray at night and marry women so anyone who don’t do like me is not following me”.[reported as a right hadith by Al-ALBANY][/ltr]
[ltr]6.         Western countries are used to advice people to delay marriage after forty, but now they are calling people to marry as young as possible because of the many benefits for human and community. [/ltr]
[ltr]7.         All of the above prove that religion of Islam is not calling for underdevelopment but the problem is that human didn’t understand these orders. Allah Almighty says: (And whoever seeks a religion other than Islam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers){Sûrat Al-Imrân - The Family of Imran –verse85}.[/ltr]
 
 
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[ltr]By: Abduldaem Al-Kaheel[/ltr]
[ltr]www.kaheel7.com/eng[/ltr]
 
[ltr]References:[/ltr]
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[ltr]•           http://www.uow.otago.ac.nz/academic/psych/staff/Kate.html[/ltr]
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[ltr]•           http://www.deseretnews.com/article/700009770/Why-Marriage-Matters-Marriage-leads-to-better-overall-health-scholar-Linda-Waite-says.html[/ltr]
[ltr]•           http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2004/12/15/health/main661322.shtml[/ltr]
[ltr]•           http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/08/100817111827.htm[/ltr]
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[ltr]•           http://www.coe.int/t/dg2/equality/domesticviolencecampaign/Fact_Sheet_en.asp[/ltr]
[ltr]•           http://www.now.org/issues/violence/stats.html[/ltr]
[ltr]•           http://www.asafeplaceforhelp.org/batteredwomenstatistics.html[/ltr]
[ltr]•           http://www.saltshakers.org.au/issues/homosexuality/199-statistics-homosexuality[/ltr]
[ltr]•           http://www.cdc.gov/[/ltr]
[ltr]•           http://www.rainn.org/get-information/statistics/sexual-assault-victims[/ltr]
[ltr]•           http://kaheel7.com/eng/index.php/legislative-miracles/223-and-among-his-signs-is-that-he-created-for-you-wives-from-among-yourselves[/ltr]
[ltr]•           http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/8217959.stm[/ltr]
[ltr]•           http://www.abc.net.au/news/stories/2009/03/10/2511834.htm[/ltr]
[ltr]•           http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1015164/Children-older-fathers-likely-die-early.html[/ltr]

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